Archive for April 2010

Kiss Comfort Goodbye!

April 14, 2010

Are you comfortable with where you are? Comfort can be a good place, but staying in one immobile place for an extended period of time can cause you to become complacent and flat-out lazy. It leaves very little room for change.  Many times you want to get out of that comfort zone because you can feel something on the inside telling you that a change is needed. You make an attempt to bring about that change and it seems like something always gets in the way. When you look up, you see that you are still in that comfort zone. When you are in a comfort zone, it paralyzes you from moving forward. This comfort zone makes it is easy to settle in a relationship. It’s easy to stay in or get in a relationship based on comfort and familiarity.  It becomes easy to entertain knock-offs, knowing they don’t desire change. It becomes easy to entertain casual conversation, knowing it will only go so far.There are even those in relationships that are so comfortable, they don’t do anything to keep the relationship fun and interesting.

What happens when comfort moves out? What happens when you are completely tired of where you are? You know there is more in you, and you know that you have so much more you should be doing. I suggest that you just start from where you are. Yesterday is history, today is a new day. When comfort moves out, you become uncomfortable. Sometimes it takes you being uncomfortable for a while in order for you to chase after your destiny. Trouble isn’t concerned with those who are not going anywhere because trouble’s job is to prevent you from getting closer to your destiny. TROUBLE IS ATTRACTED TO THE OPPOSITE OF ITSELF. IF TROUBLE FINDS YOU, IT’S BECAUSE YOU ARE GOING SOMEWHERE.

Anything worth something comes with a price. Your desire for that mate comes with a price. It’s harder to appreciate something and admire its worth when it came with no cost. You have gone through and are going through what you are dealing with because something greater is in you. If you don’t believe it, no one else will. You may have felt pain, rejection, doubt, betrayal, insecurity, anger, etc. You may not see it or understand it all now, but soon enough, that change will come and your eyes will be opened. When your life is consumed and contingent upon God sending your mate, you are too comfortable. If you were busy pursuing destiny, your focus would be more on that continual task. Do you know who you are? YOU NEED TO FIND YOU, BEFORE HE CAN FIND YOU. You may not recognize him when he sees you because you are in a comfort zone. If you are in your comfort zone and the lights are turned off, God may not allow him to recognize you just yet. YOUR MATE IS ON A CERTAIN ROAD YOU MUST TRAVEL, BUT IF YOU KEEP STOPPING AND GETTING OFF THE ROAD, BOTH OF YOU MAY BE GOING AROUND IN CIRCLES. However, I know that you will get on the road towards destiny. I applaud you and stand with you as you walk into greatness. KISS COMFORT GOODBYE. That’s all for now.

Your Singles Advisor,