3 Signs They Might Be The Right Fit!


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You must have it set in your mind that you will meet the 1. This must be your starting point. If you are wrestling back and forth about if you will ever meet the 1, you are not operating in faith. We know that scripture makes it clear that it is impossible to please God without faith. So, you must keep the faith. Where there is no faith, God won’t be interested! He’s very interested in things pertaining to you. God is very much into you, but He’s not into a lack of faith.


So, you must begin and end with faith. Now that we addressed that point, you can rest in the comfort of knowing that there is someone for you regardless of how many dates you’ve been on or have not been on. All of that is irrelevant when it comes to meeting the 1. Keep in mind that you only need 1, and you need the right 1. So, I’ve outlined 3 tips to help you know if they’re the right fit.


1.) You Can See God In Them

This may seem complicated, but it really isn’t. This actually has more to do with you than it has to do with them. This goes back to your relationship with God. You knowing God for yourself will help you to be able to identify God in someone else. I’m not talking about potential either. If you can’t see God in you, it will be very difficult to see God in them!


Don’t be basing it solely off of potential. You should be able to see God’s love coming out of them through their words and actions. It doesn’t mean that they are the 1, but it is more than enough for you to know that they have potential to be the 1. Of course, it would be easier if you knew up front if they were the 1 or not.


What’s certain is that if you seek God for an answer, you will get it. What is for certain is that the Holy Spirit will guide you. He will show you red flags. He will show you areas you need to change in as well. The Holy Spirit has never led you astray. Now, it’s up to you to take heed to His leading. Just because they go to church doesn’t mean God is in them. I’m talking about the lifestyle they live. What’s coming out of them?


Trust me, it doesn’t take long to discover this. It won’t take long to see character flaws or inconsistencies. It won’t take long at all if you watch and pray. You’re not necessarily looking for something bad, but you’re just looking for instructions on the next steps. Of course we all are growing, but the key is are they actually looking for growth? What happens sometimes is you might get overly anxious and your feelings may cloud the voice of the Holy Spirit.


Take your time b/c you’re not racing against the clock. The clock is on your side. If you see characteristics of God coming out of them, that’s a good start. Keep in mind that you can’t give them all the points up front. Some things must still be proven consistently. The more you get to know someone, the more you will see, whether good or bad! There is no rush!


2.) They Make You Feel Like A Priority

This makes sense, but the problem is that too many have made excuses to justify not being made a priority. Priority has levels. The level of priority for marriage is naturally different from the level of just getting to know someone. When you’re getting to know someone, they should show you that you’re a priority as it pertains to the amount of time they spend getting to know you. Time becomes that much more important. It takes time to get to know someone, so if they can’t make enough time then you don’t have time to deal with them!


I say it time and time again that people make time for what they want, regardless of how busy their schedule is. If you find yourself feeling neglected or not important b/c of their treatment, that is a red flag. You need to address it, and if they remain inconsistent, then you need to govern yourself accordingly. If you get used to making excuses for bad behavior while dating, you will be used to it when married! Stop making excuses!


You matter! Your time matters! There are no apologies needed for you to demand the respect that you deserve. A relationship can’t grow without quality time! If their priorities are out of order, either help them find it or help them find the door!


3.) You Need Something They Have To Offer

I’m not just talking about surface things that anyone can do. I’m talking about deeper things. I’m talking about the way their spirit seems to sing to your spirit. I’m talking about them bringing something to the table that you don’t have. They have strengths in areas you were weak in.


The two of you will truly complement each other. The more you get to know them, the more you will see. It won’t all necessarily be obvious up front, but in time it will be crystal clear.


In the meantime, keep the faith on your journey towards the 1. Your journey is uniquely yours. Don’t be ashamed. Don’t beat yourself up. I know at times it’s hard to get excited about what you can’t see, but you can always see it when you look through the lens of faith!


As always, remember that you are Single For 1! That is all for now.

Your Relationship Advisor,

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